If you can’t do hard, real and vulnerable you cannot lead in the future.The biggest barrier to courageous leadership is self-protection, the way we armor up.Examples: (1) unwillingness or inability to have tough conversations (2) blaming instead of accountability. We asked “What do you see as a barrier to courage?” In the book, we share 10 barriers to leadership.We asked all the leaders we interviewed: What is the future of leadership? What scares you the most about not being able to find new leaders? What is missing? From family-owned to starts-ups to fortune-10 companies we heard: “We need more courage in our leaders.”.Get a copy of Brene’s new book Dare to Lead and additional resources for it here.Show Notes on Brené Brown’s New Book Dare to Lead I’d rather contribute and be criticized than play it safe. To opt-out of difficult conversations around gender, race, or class, because you can’t do it perfectly or be comfortable is the definition of privilege.If I feel nauseous when I’m done, I probably did a good job.If you can’t get to 100% together, you have to have kindness, patience, and grace with each other to make it through. Share how much you have + ask how much your partner has. Brené’s marriage hack: Instead of thinking, “it should be 50/50” a solid partnership is one where, when you have 20%, they can cough up 80%.90% of “balancing it all” is having the right partner, one that shines when you shine.They need to see me be strong and contribute and do something I love and then they need me to be present when I am home. My kids don’t need me to apologize for working.

In the absence of belonging, we show up in ways that are outside of our normal values. Even at fortune 10 companies, without exception, Brené hears that one of the hardest things about work is feeling like you don’t belong.We can never experience a sense of belonging that is greater than our sense of self-worth and courage to stand alone because sometimes we have to stand alone.True belonging never requires you to change who you are.You know what is harder than not fitting in at school? Not fitting in at home.“You can’t write a new ending to a story that you have not owned.”.Now, years and 400,000 pieces of data later, I know there is not courage without vulnerability.” I had to be brave and wasn’t allowed to be vulnerable. “I was raised with a very Texas sensibility.Brené studies courage, vulnerability, shame, empathy + what transformational leaders will need in the future.Watch Brené Brown’s TED talk on vulnerability here.

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